recently,  a friend of mine lost his mother. i was checking my facebook while i was commuting when i saw his facebook status. this stopped me in my tracks and i felt sad;  sad that this world has lost someone good and empathy for my friend. what do you say to someone who lost a loved one? no matter what you say to him or her, it would never be enough. well, at least for me, it wasn’t. when i lost my dad, i just wallowed in my own misery and self pity. well, of course i needed to hear those kind words, the concern from other people but what i’m saying is you heal at your own time. i finally stopped crying 6 months later.

on monday, as i was down with flu and was resting at home, i saw patrick swayze’s widow being interviewed by oprah. i saw pictures of the couple, looking so wonderfully happy together. she was talking about how she is coping with life without him and i can still see the grief in her eyes. and i wonder, how would i cope if i were her and how would life be? the core of my life has always been him and my future is planned with him in mind.

however, having said that, although humans are fragile but humans have a special capability of drawing miraculous amount of strength when needed. we humans are strong.

*note to myself: for our fifth wedding anniversary, we must get a photographer to shoot pictures of us. =)

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